” The key is to maintain self awareness in the midst of learning the values of who you are to best serve your full self infinitely”.
It all came to me about two years ago when I was experiencing a lot anxiety about the direction I wanted my life to take. I found that despite having clear interests and passions, my goals seemed to still be cluttered because my mind was dabbling and toiling in the places that my spirit wasn’t up for a debate with.
I wanted to understand why I couldn’t just be that successful person already and kept relying on the biographys of others to take me there. All of the accomplishments made me feel like I couldn’t compete with those who I had looked up to because I thought “Hey, it’s already been done”.
After taking on several mentors who I thought were building me up and helping get to the place I so desperately wanted to go, I slowly began to realize that the place I needed to go was within me. If I am such a good mentor, such an uplifting, vibrant personality person who changes lives for underserved youth, then why can’t I just be my own mentor?
And so I did. I am me. We all are us. Nobody can overtake the power of who we are for ourselves and change that. They can only appear, and to quote one of my favourite philos geniuses, Socrates says, ” I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.”
Thinking leads to the greatest gift we have: our ability and capacity to do. We can do so much in our lives if we allow ourselves to do them, even if we do not inherently believe they are that great or that we know how to do them with greatness, you already are in the act!
This concept of doing allowed me to take on a different perspective when it came to achieving my goals and dreams. I started to think about shifting. What does it mean to shift. People change and shift all the time. Why do we as human beings constantly shift, only to shift oneself, one’s ideas, beliefs, feelings, even our skin, eye shape, and hair! We are always in a constant Shift mode it seems. But why and why is it so imperative for people to shift and live without clarity. I have been living in it for years, and yes, in case your wondering I still do it just like you.
However, now I have come to almost subconsciously realize that shifting is necessary to growth. Shifting with laser like intention, grit even, and a streak of knowing that what I want will be on the other side of the madness that I am currently facing in my mind about others, and their thoughts about me, and my thoughts about them and what they’ve done to me.
Yes, it matters to us, we as human beings naturally care about the opinions of others, regardless if we call ourselves empaths or not.
But please remember that in the caring about those words that were said or those actions or level of respect that we were expecting from someone else, it is in our shifting from anxious thoughts to thoughts of indomitable spirit thoughts, to thoughts of “Omg, why doesn’t he treat me like the Queen I am, just like he said I was, just like I felt him doing a monh ago, to “Ok, he doesn’t know how to treat me the way I deserve, that’s fine, I will move and find the man who can live up to that quality and do it well, from ” I can’t live up to those standards, they are too overwhelming for me to face, to ” I will live my own because I am amazing with my firece fire letting go of all the thoughts that don’t encourage me to do exactly what I choose to in his life, and as Jay-Z and B say in this life of sin, well it doesn’t have to be, it can be a wonderful enlightening one, whereby you are always choosing the best for you even if at times God doesn’t know what that is and is giving you nonsnese. Nobody is ever giving nonsense! You are the creator, the master, the doer, the shifter from the have nots and the why can’ts, to the what will be as I get clear with me and all of the beautiful fantastic loving encouraging supporting spirits who will offer you the same when you Shift to: alive mode. Say it to yourself: I will live alive. 🙂
With love,
Lindsey
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